 INTERVIEW Transcript T = Therapist. C = Client Therapist greets Client and has C. sit where she would like. There is no dividing desk so the chairs are placed at equal distances. T: Hi, it is good to meet you Mrs Day. C: Please call me DooDah. I am DooDah Day, but using my first name is fine. T: Very well, DooDah. Let's get some house chores done and then we can see where to begin. (T and C go over the paper work for signatures, clarifying of mandated reporting, emergency precedures, boundaries, code of ethics, cancellation policy, Therapist availability, etc). T: DooDah you came here for a reason and I am happy to listen to what that is unless you find some other way of expressing yourself, easier than talking? Some people prefer to write, or draw, or use clay - what would be most comfortable for you? C: Oh, I love to talk. I can talk to you just fine. T: Very well, so what would you like to talk about today? C: Oh, I don't want to talk about today, I want to talk about my husband, Yester. Yester Day. T: What about Yester bothers you? C: His driving. He continually, as they say, has the pedal to the metal. T: Are you saying he likes speed? C: Oh my goodness NO! He might do a little weed now and then but nothing more. T: Sorry, DooDah, I meant it seems his driving fast really bothers you. C: His fast isn't driving him. He's very religious you know. Fasts every other weekend, but that has nothing to do with the car. Do you think it could be his eyesight or something? T: He wears glasses when he's out? C: No, he wears ME out. Like I try my best to have the pants and shirt he wants for work, all clean and pressed for him, and it's never good enough. He wants a tie and I try to tell him a tie is when two people reach the finishing line at the same time, but he won't listen to me. T: DooDah, you were telling me about his driving and wondering if his eyesight is impaired. C: There you go - just like him. It isn't a matter of pairs, even though its him and me and that makes two, there's only one of us at the wheel in the car. How can he SEE where he's going when he drives like a madman. T: Sounds like it really frightens you when the car is racing. C: It's my HEART that's racing - must be going two hundreds beats a minute at least. T: Have you talked with Yester about how you feel? C: I have to be really careful how I feel - you know, some men think you're coming on to them if you even touch them on the arm. Oh no, I could never talk to him about that - he's very shy. T: DooDah, I was speaking about telling Yester how afraid you are when he is driving well over the speed limit? What does he say when you tell him that, or have you? C: Well, one time he did drive over a sign that said 65mph, but I think that's the only time he drove over a limit. I never said nothing about it at the time because we were on our way to our son's wedding and we didn't have time to stop and stick it upright again. T: DooDah, are you sure this is really what you came here for? To talk about how scared you are by Yester's fast driving? What is the real problem between you and your husband? C: I dunno. Seems like we never communicate. T. (mutters under her breath, " what was my first clue?") Aloud, " Well, DooDah, perhaps we should talk about how you think the two of you are not able to reach eachother and hear what the other one is trying to say. Does this sound like a good starting place? C: Oh, can we? ********* The point of this light side of therapy is that very often pure anxiousness or nervousness can result in seemingly inane conversation that covers a deep seated problem . This can be addressed through allowing the diversionary tactics to play themselves out. One can then get down to the nitty gritty such as exploring what lies underneath in the surging channels of a distressed Mind. Goessoftly Retired Therapist www.goessoftlyishere.com (Permission for reprints is required)   | LISTENING | RETRAUMATIZATION | PSYCHOBABBLE 1 | PSYCHOBABBLE 2A | PSYCHOBABBLE 2B | Did You Ever Push MY BUTTONS ! ! | Balance | THE INVISIBLE ONES | WEEDS | RECOGNIZING DISTRESS | COMMUNICATION | INTERVIEW (The lighter side) | INNOCUOUS INTERVIEW ? | The THERAPIST as RISK TAKER | TAINTED | CAN I TRUST YOU? | CAN I TRUST YOU? | CAN I TRUST YOU? | Me According to ME | | THE HEALING PROCESS | DISSOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER | POETRY | Biographical Entries | THE OTHER SIDE OF LIFE | STORIES FOR LITTLES (Pigmus and friends) | SEEDLING THOUGHTS TO WATER | | Return Home | Great Links | Sign/View Guestbook | |
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